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Dog-obsessed women on dating apps
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Can someone please explain to me why young women (at least on dating apps) seem so obsessed with dogs? I'm a 27-year-old male, and I've never considered myself much of a dog person (or pet person at all, for that matter). It seems like every other profile I stumble across features something about dogs, such as being a "dog mom" or "probably swiping right for your dog." I'm not bitter or anything, I just truly don't understand the mentality. Is it just because of the innate maternal instinct? Lastly, are these women even worth my time if I'm not into pets? Thanks in advance for your thoughts.
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The answer is probably: no, they aren’t worth your time. If they are so attached to their pet that it’s their whole profile personality then that’s probably going to be a huge focus throughout your entire dating experience.
Dating when you don't like dogs
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Hey all, first time post.
I live in a city where dogs are extremely popular. At the park, I routinely have random dogs come up and try to touch me. I've seen dogs run toward picnics and eat the food with the owner half heatedly chasing after them. And it seems everyone has a dog (even worse, most of them are rat dogs).
I've had 2 relationships with people who had Chihuahuas now and it legitimately posed a huge issue in both instances. One ex started crying when I asked if his chihuahua could sleep on a dog bed on the ground instead of in the (full size) bed with us. He asked to have the dog on the bed during sex before and his dog would lunge and snap at me if I was on top of him. My other ex had a chihuahua that she shared with her housemate. The dog would routinely piss in the apartment because she was stubborn and didn't like going outside. I hate when people don't challenge stubbornness in animals.
I'm looking to date again sometime soon (working around COVID) but I think I'm pretty done with dogs. I feel weird about making dogs a deal breaker, especially since I have a cat that I really love. Is it worth it to rule out anyone who has a dog? Both of my bad experienced were with Chis but I've also been attacked by a Great Pyrenees so bigger dogs scare me while little dogs annoy me.
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Yes otherwise you'll be on here later on ranting about your relationship because of a dog. 98% of the time the situation is preventable by not engaging in a relationship with a dog nutter.
Someone make a dogfree dating app. Please, I’m going insane
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I’m a college age female, so naturally every guy with a dog thinks they are God’s gift to women. “My dog is my priority,” “just looking for a mom for my dog,” “dogs>people.” PUH-LEAZE. Every single guy has a dog in their photos, because any google search about building a dating app profile will tell you women go crazy for men with dogs. I’m just here to say that is a hard left swipe from me.
At least this subreddit gives me hope that there are likeminded people out there, just few and far between. I am just at that point in my life that I am not willing to risk becoming involved with someone who could one day compromise my dogfree lifestyle.
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It's a pity that DogfreeDating hasn't got the traffic it deserves.
Sleeping Dogs in 2020 Dating and Karoke!
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Getting a puppy while in a "new" relationship and other considerations
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Hi everybody,
First off, sorry for the wall of text! My SO (25) and I (25) are looking into getting a puppy and, because this is a huge responsibility, I'm looking into making sure everything is perfect or as near a possible before we commit. The only point we are divided on at the moment is on when we get the puppy. I'm a big advocate for getting a puppy this summer (april-may preferably) and my SO wants to wait till later until her job stabilises a bit more. We have been together for 3 months. I'm basically here to get a sanity check on what is possible and how this could affect our relationship. Of course if my SO really wants to wait I'll wait but I want to know what I'm getting myself into.
A bit about us: We are both dog lovers and both have experience. My SO has had family dogs most of her life and learned Pet Care. My first dog was a Border Collie 3 years ago when I lived at home and is now my brothers dog. I did allot of the training with our BC and been fascinated with dog training even before getting our dog. I'd like to do full obedience and Frisbee with my dog. We have everything sorted from race breed (requirements) to the financial aspect. I made sure I could support the dog on my own both financially and time wise. I work fulltime 8 hour days (except Friday) and I will be able to go home for about 20 min over the midday to let the puppy out if needed. I'm used to a Border Collie so daily walks won't be a problem and I will be doing allot training with the dog. The race breed (dutch partridge dog) is also okay with less activity so should be completely fine with a walk a day and staying alone for longer times if needed. My SO works halftime as an assistant and has flexible hours. At the moment they are looking for a second assistant so they can share the load. In worst case scenario she would be away from home for a couple days a couple of times a year when her employer has to go on business trips. A normal week consists of 3-4 days working around half a day. I have been living alone for more than half a year now and we have been together for about 3 months now. I'm willing to get a dog walker/doggy care for our dog while he is a puppy if needed but plan on training him/her on being alone while we are at work. I have a kennel equivalent for the dog so he/she won't have to wait in a bench all day while we are away. I plan on taking the first week off when the puppy arrives and might try to get 1-2 weeks where I work half of the day.
So, should we get a puppy and what are some things I might not have considered? (I personally think there isn't a "perfect" time to get a dog, you can just prepare and roll with the punches if you encounter problems. Also the sooner you start, the sooner you have an adult dog you can take everywhere with you.) Would getting a puppy put allot of strain on our relatively new relationship? How so? Side question: How old would our dog have to be to left alone in a kennel outside in decent weather if trained to be alone?
TL;DR: My SO and I are both dog lovers and have covered all the bases and want to get a dog. We are together now for 3 months and I'd like to get a puppy in the summer but she wants to wait a bit longer. Would getting a puppy this early put undue strain on our relationship and if so how much? Are there other things we might have overlooked?
Thanks for any constructive advice and I'll try to respond asap.
Edit: My English failed me, it's breed not race. (thanks u/Knot_My_Name)
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Have you discussed what you'll do with the dog if your relationship ends? It's a necessary discussion, though not a comfortable one. You honestly haven't been together for very long, but even long relationships can end. My husband and I (together for 12 years) are separating and he's moving overseas this summer. Our dog is really bonded to me so I'll be keeping him, and I did the majority of the work with him anyway, so it's a logical choice. But still, now I'm single with a young dog where before I had someone to help take care of him. It's a lot of responsibility!
Puppies can definitely put strain on your sex life sometimes - they are needy and demanding, not unlike babies! They cry, have to pee, get into mischief. It can be more challenging to work around them and you may find you have less spontaneity. If you like to go out on dates, they will have to be put on hold while puppy is young, as you'll need to take the puppy out every 1 - 2 hours to pee or poop.
Puppies are a lot of work and need almost constant care, and they can become little hellions when they hit adolescence. It can be a great bonding experience, or it can be a strain.
Have you considered an adult dog? One that already comes potty trained, and maybe even with some basic obedience training? It would be a lot less adjustment to add than a new puppy, and they are generally less stressful, and also more stable.